7 Seconds – What do 7 seconds mean to you? How important are first impressions?

7 Seconds – What do 7 seconds mean to you?
7 Seconds.
During a speech, when you forget what to say, 7 seconds is an eternity.

During your first date, when holding a kiss, 7 seconds is gone in a heartbeat. That 7 seconds is never forgotten.

During lunch, when putting doughnuts out for desert, 7 seconds is enough to say, “What doughnut?”

During an interview, the first seven seconds creates your first impressions. They establish the tone of the interview. They can make huge difference for you in the long haul. They can make the difference between being hired or not. First impressions, amazingly influential.

How important are first impressions?
We all create first impressions nearly every day. First impressions are a key factor in networking with other people and establishing new relationships. First impressions are a key factor in determining whether we will accomplish our goals on our own. Or, if we will have someone else’s assistance.

For example, when meeting someone on the airplane, or church, or at work, how do you answer the question, “What do you do?” Your answer will determine whether you will get to know this person. Your answer will also determine if that person was placed in your path so that they can help you. Or, if you can help them.

Breaking down first impressions into parts using Romans 1:1-16:
Let’s take a look in the book of Romans for first impressions. When Paul wrote the book of Romans, he had not yet met the Romans. So, we can see in the first 16 verses how Paul created his first impression.

I’m going to break down the first sixteen verses into 8 parts. And, in those 8 parts, Paul introduced himself, stated who he worked for, stated his goals, showed how his goals effected the Romans, told what Paul was thankful for and how much he cared, showed what Paul had in common with the Romans, and showed how Paul could help the Romans.

Name and job title:
Verses 1-2, “Paul, a servant of Christ Jesus, called to be an apostle, set apart for the gospel of God, which he promised beforehand through his prophets in the holy Scriptures,”

Description of Paul’s boss:
(This like us describing the company we work for)
Verses 2-4,”concerning his Son, who was descended from David according to the flesh and was declared to be the Son of God in power according to the Spirit of holiness by his resurrection from the dead, Jesus Christ our Lord,”

Paul’s Goal:
Verse 5, “through whom we have received grace and apostleship to bring about the obedience of faith for the sake of his name among all the nations,”

How Paul’s goal effects his audience:
Verse 6, “including you who are called to belong to Jesus Christ, To all those in Rome who are loved by God and called to be saints: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”

What is Paul thankful for:
After the greeting, it is common for Paul to state what he is thankful for. For example, see 1 Cor. 1:1–9; Phil. 1:1–8; Col. 1:1–8; 1 Thess. 1:2; 2 Thess. 1:3; 2 Tim. 1:3; and Philem. 4). Romans 1, verse 8, “First, I thank my God through Jesus Christ for all of you, because your faith is proclaimed in all the world.”

Paul show’s how much he cares for the Romans:
Verses 9-10, “For God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of his Son, that without ceasing I mention you always in my prayers, asking that somehow by God’s will I may now at last succeed in coming to you.”

Paul states what he has in common with the Romans:
Verses 11-13, “For I long to see you, that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to strengthen you— that is, that we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine. I do not want you to be unaware, brothers, that I have often intended to come to you (but thus far have been prevented), in order that I may reap some harvest among you as well as among the rest of the Gentiles.”

Paul states how he can help the Romans:
Verses 14-16, “I am under obligation both to Greeks and to barbarians, both to the wise and to the foolish. So I am eager to preach the gospel to you also who are in Rome. For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek.”

Paul did all this in sixteen verses. That’s amazing.

Looking forward
We can choose to work on our first impressions or not. I choose to work on them.

Here is a good way to determine how good your first impressions are. Try it for yourself. In 20 seconds, can you state your name, what you do, and your goals for the future? Yes, in only 20 seconds. Why only 20 seconds? That’s your first impression. After that, find out about the other person. What do they do? What common interests do you both share? How can you help them? If the other person is interested, you can provide more details about yourself.

Lord, thank you for great examples of first impressions. Help me to clearly see how Paul created his first impressions. Help me to learn the lessons that I need to learn so that I can apply those first impression lessons to my life. Please increase your wisdom in my life. The next time I have a chance to make a great first impression, I am going to remember Paul’s example.

Can you get back life’s first kiss after it has been stolen?

Do you remember life’s first kiss.
Magical moments. Life was bliss.
Friendship was warm. Hearts were inviting.
Words flowed in torrents. Touches were exciting.
We never, ever wanted to part.
Ribbons of joy were just the start.

and now

Life’s messages are blaring and declaring
that we’re not happy! We’ll start straying.
I am concerned. I need your appraisal,
Am I okay? Do I have your approval?
But your caring words are causing a spasm,
because your words are filled with sarcasm.

and now

Desperate support is what I request.
What I receive is a torrential inquest.
My rights and my needs are what I now crave.
and you’re not acting like you should behave.
Carping and faultfinding are not in our pact.
I need to tell you how you should now act.

and now

We’re endlessly sad and terminally tired.
Friendship moments are all but expired.
Connected through our angry exchanges.
Pain increases and peace just ceases.
Now pain turns to fear and infects our thoughts
and fear filters words into blood clots.

and now

We’re experts at all our horrible words
that shred our hearts just like those swords.
Friendly attempts are met with contempt.
There’s never a word that isn’t exempt.
Now I won’t help you and you won’t help me.
You are are nothing and I need to flee.

and now

Finally I see what my friends told me.
Intelligent boundaries make up the right key.
The bible is a guidebook for each transaction.
Give love for hate and proceed with caution.
Don’t assume. Check all the facts. And control oneself.
And forgive all the wrongs to heal yourself.
and wait for the healing
it will take some time

and now

Life has given us another first kiss.
Moments are magical and life is bliss.
Friendship bands are warm and inviting.
Words flow in torrents and touches are exciting.
Our lives are full and amazing and sweet.
Ribbons of joy and now we’re complete.