Is silence worth the cost? Is it worth it to gripe and complain? What choice do we have?

Is Silence Worth it? STGrimes
Is Silence Worth it? STGrimes

“The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people, but the silence over that by the good people.” Martin Luther King Jr.

I stepped into the doorway and was greeted with 6 angry faces. The manager’s words directed that anger at me. “Sit down! Shut up! And let us work!”

Now, the ball was in my court. As the replacement project manager of a project that was in trouble, how should I respond?

Anger? That would permanently damage relationships that hadn’t even formed yet.

Silence? That’s how I used to respond. I would tell myself that I was big enough to handle the insults. The problem was, I wasn’t really letting the problems go. I was storing them inside. And they were festering. They caused my temper to become shorter, my depressions to be greater. I wasn’t doing anyone any favors by keeping quiet. Is silence really worth the cost?

Gripe and Compain? That’s how most people that I know react. They start complaining and complaining about the situation to everyone that they know. They become all angry and self-righteous. The trouble is, all they’re doing is complaining. They’re hurting the target of their complaining. They’re hurting themselves and they don’t even know it. And, they’re hurting everyone around them. They’re not actually doing anything to solve the problem. That means that they’re only making the problems worse.

In my mind, griping and complaining and silence are equally bad options that cause more damage then we’ll ever realize.

So, what did I do?

I made the decision to take every thought captive and give them to Christ. That means treat people with respect – whether they deserve it or not.

So, what did I do next?

I listened to their problems.
I asked questions to show that I understood, that I cared.
I shared my experiences in dealing with this situation.
I shared solutions on how “we” could get out of the situation.
We brainstormed for more solutions.
We became a team.
We worked together.
We became friends.
We solved the problem.

Is silence worth the cost?
Is griping and complaining worth the cost?
What is the cost?

What is the cost of respect?

What is the cost of making new friends?

What is the cost of deepening relationships by working together to get out of bad situations?

What is the cost of taking every thought captive and turn them into opportunities to build something new through respect?

What is the cost of being able to work as a team with enough trust to openly share all of our creative solutions to solve challenging siutations?

Is Silence Worth it? STGrimes
Is Silence Worth it? STGrimes

“The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people, but the silence over that by the good people.” Martin Luther King Jr.

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